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HARGREAVES, John Walter Douglas (Doug)


Posted: July 6, 2016

John Walter Douglas (Doug) Hargreaves (84) died peacefully at home, Kingston, Ontario on July 5, 2016 surrounded by family. One of the most recognized and respected figures in Canadian university football, Doug will be remembered for his professional contributions, as an inspirational role model and mentor, and as a devoted and loving husband, father and grandfather. He was a graduate of Queen's University (B.A. 1960) and Dalhousie University (M.Sc.1975) and served in the Royal Canadian Air Force for 14 years, retiring with the rank of Major. Doug had a long and successful career as a coach and educator at Royal Military College (RMC), Dalhousie University and Queen's University. In 2012, he received an Honorary Doctorate of Laws from Queen's in recognition of his contributions to the university, intercollegiate athletics, the sport of football nationally and in Europe, and for the positive impact he had on the lives of many hundreds of young people. Doug is survived by his beloved wife of 60 years Norma; daughters Vicki, Gayle (husband Peter Muir) and Lynn; cherished grandsons Jeremiah (partner Hannah) and Eli (partner Ginny) Bach, Alexander (wife Xiaowei) and Gordon Muir; brother Ward (wife Judy); and cousins, nieces, nephews and aunt. Although honored many times for his professional contributions and accomplishments, Doug's most enduring legacy consists of his inspirational approach to leadership and life. His children and grandchildren, and many of his players and students, follow those values and principles in their lives and careers and will carry them forward to a new generation. He was a source of optimism, encouragement and energy; a man of uncommon modesty; respectful and respected in turn. Born in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario on December 20, 1931 to Violet (McCullough) Hargreaves and Charles Gordon Hargreaves, Doug remained a Soo boy at heart all his life. His parents were two of his most loyal fans, often traveling many hours to attend sporting events when their son was playing or coaching. Doug's beloved brother Ward was a confidant and best friend to Doug through the years. Doug came to Queen's in the early 1950's as an Officer Cadet in the University Reserve Training Program. At Queen's he played varsity football and basketball, and met his future wife Norma, who was a Queen's student before completing Kingston General Hospital's School of Nursing program. In the years following graduation, Doug taught high school, sold insurance, worked as a TV weatherman and coached various high school sports before reenlisting with the RCAF. He served in the RCAF until 1972 as a pilot, instructor, administrator and head coach of both football and basketball at the Royal Military College in Kingston, Ontario (1965-70). Having attained the rank of Major, Doug retired from the armed forces to take on the roles of Men's Coordinator of Athletics and head football coach at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Doug was thrilled to return to Queen's in 1976 as head football coach and to teach in the School of Physical Education. In his roles as coach and mentor, Doug had a profound impact on the lives of hundreds of young people, many of whom became lifelong friends. Doug led by example: with integrity, preparation, poise, perseverance and dignity. He emphasized the importance of character, hard work and academic rigour, and demonstrated how sport and competition enhance each of those elements. He stood for a standard of excellence that was second to none, yet his personal motto, "Be flexible and keep your sense of humour," reflected a keen understanding of the waywardness of life, the inevitability of human error, and of his own foibles. He encouraged others to persevere; taught that hard work overcomes much; and most importantly, to believe in themselves. Respected Canada-wide for his well-coached and disciplined teams, Doug led the Queen's Golden Gaels to 16 consecutive OQIFC playoff appearances and made 13 league championship appearances, winning nine of those title games and posting two undefeated seasons. While he was head coach, the Gaels appeared in three National Championship games, winning twice. Doug earned OQIFC Coach of the Year honours five times while at Queen's. In 1983, he was awarded the Frank Tindall Award as the top intercollegiate head coach in Canada. Doug's Canadian Intercollegiate Athletic Union record of 128 wins, 103 losses, and 3 ties spans a career from RMC, Dalhousie, and Queen's. In 1994 he retired, having coached the most football games (233) in CIAU history up to that time. Since 1995, the Most Outstanding Offensive Player at Queen's has been awarded the Doug Hargreaves Trophy. Doug is a member of the Queen's Coaches' Hall of Fame, the Queen's Football Hall of Fame, and the Kingston & District Sports Hall of Fame. In 1997, he received the prestigious John Orr Award, the highest alumni tribute given by the Queen's University Board of Trustees. The Kingston Branch of the Queen's University Alumni Association honored Doug with the Jim Bennett Achievement Award in 2005. Doug served on the CIAU Rules Committee for 10 years, was a member of Football Canada's Working Committee (creating the Coaching Technical Certification program for Canada), and pioneered the exporting of the Canadian game to various European countries. He was instrumental in the forming of the Queen's Football Club and the catalyst behind the Queen's Football Hall of Fame. During retirement, Doug took great pleasure in the company of family and friends - both old and new. He and Norma spent many winters downhill skiing in British Columbia. Doug returned to the skies and made a new circle of friends when he began building and flying scale radio-controlled aircraft. An avid sailor, he never turned down a chance to get out on the water. In later years, he delighted in the life adventures of his grandchildren. As his health declined, Doug kept his sense of humor and quick wit. Laughter was commonplace when friends and family visited, and during his regular phone conversations with his brother Ward. A Celebration of Life will be held at the Senior Staff Mess, Royal Military College on Sunday, July 10, 2-5 pm. The family suggests that memorial contributions be sent to Hospice Kingston, Residence Program at canadahelps.org or to the charity of your choice.

 

Messages of Condolence


 

 
Posted: July 10, 2016

To the Hargreaves family, please accept our deepest condolences for your loss. I hope that you can take comfort in your memories of Doug and in the knowledge that he had a profound impact on thousands of young people. Throughout my career, I often found myself leaning on Dougs wisdom, his witticisms and his outlook on life  be flexible and have a sense of humour is a wonderful adage to live ones life by. His impact on all of us, transcended the football field. Our prayers are with you. Ed and Hanna Kidd

 

Posted: July 10, 2016

Norma and family, Barb and myself send our deepest condolences on Doug's passing. I had the privilege of playing football for Doug at RMC in 1968-1970, and what a privilege it was. He was an incredibly professional and inspirational individual who had a very positive impact on me personally. Thank you Doug for being a leader and mentor for so many. Bill and Barb Brewer

 

Posted: July 10, 2016

Dear Norma and family, "Our lives are shaped as much by those who leave as by those who remain." Our thoughts are with you all at this time. It was a privilege to have known Doug for these many years. Most sincerely, Derek and Helen Mackesy

 

Posted: July 11, 2016

Norma my sincere condolences to you and your family, Coach was a special person who was admired by all. You are in my prayers. Kayla

 

Posted: July 14, 2016

When my husband, Jerry Godin, saw Doug's obituary in the Star, he told me about their friendship in high school back in Sault Ste Marie. It was clear back then that Doug was a very special person. After high school their paths crossed at the boat club but their career choices took them to different cities. I wish I had had a chance to meet Doug. He was certainly a fine person. Eleanor Godin

 

Posted: July 6, 2016

Norma, Vicki, Gayle, Lynn & family. My sincere condolences to you all on Doug's passing. You are all in our prayers. Doug, his character & what he stood for will be remembered for as long as I am alive. Scott Bissessar

 

Posted: July 6, 2016

Norma, Lynn, Vicki and Gayle, and family--on behalf of the Queen's community, and ourselves, we send our deepest condolences to you all. Doug is and will be fondly remembered by the hundreds of former students and colleagues who knew him. Queen's has lost one of its true legends. Sincerely, Daniel Woolf and Julie Gordon-Woolf

 

Posted: July 6, 2016

Norma & Family - Our thoughts are with you - many happy memories - Doug influenced both of us - Ed & Liz Andrew

 

Posted: July 6, 2016

Norma & family Our sincere condolences to you all on the passing of Doug. Our thoughts are with you during this most difficult time. Doug was a good friend and we regret we will not be able to attend the"Wake" but we will be there in thought and spirit. Hank & Arlene

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Norma and gang. Doug played a significant role in the lives of so many. He will be dearly missed by all. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Tish & Rob Ball

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

My deepest sympathies to Norma and family. Coach was a legend in our Queen's Football loving family. When I graduated in 1998, I became a ticket checker at Panorama Mountain Village. There, I had the good fortune of seeing Doug and Norma at the hill nearly every day. I enjoyed his great sense of humor and was in awe of his obvious love for Norma. Few people truly leave such a remarkable legacy. He was one of a kind. I am grateful to have had the chance to cross paths with him. Robyn Colvin (Norrie)

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Our deepest condolences to you Norma and those three wonderful women that we "baby sat" over fifty years ago. We have so many fond memories of time spent with the Hargeaves and we cherish greatly how Doug's guidance and direction influenced my life. As a life long friend of Ward I have acquired a "Big Brother"! We regret that Judy's state of health and my older brother's placement in the local hospice will not allow us to get to Kingston to be with you. Doug's life should be celebrated and always fondly remembered! Love Dan and Judy Carmichael.

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

To the Hargreaves family, Doug inspired generations of young men. He did so by setting the most wonderful example relating to discipline, teamwork, character, and integrity He is a giant within his profession and, more importantly, in the memories of those who cherished him as their leader. Sincerely, Jamie Lewin

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Doug lives on in not only his family but in the hearts and minds of all the players he developed. Long may his spirit be with everyone who knew and loved Doug, guiding you on the field of life.

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Norma and family. Our sincerest condolences to you at this time. Coach Doug had a tremendous impact on my life. Peter Harrison and family.

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

I am honoured to have been coached by Doug, and will always remember the simple life-lessons he reinforced: "life is like a one way trip to the salad bar" and, "be flexible and have a sense of humour" Sincere condolences to your family, Sam Stankovic

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Dear Norma and the Hargreaves'family, our thoughts and prayers are with you. We will all miss a great coach. Ruth & Dennis Hrycaiko

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Norma and Family. My family and I send our sincerest condolences and are thinking of you at this time. Coach Doug had a tremendous impact on my life and I am forever grateful.

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Norma and family, know our prayers are with you. Doug's legacy lives on in you and many of us who have been blessed with his presence and influence in our lives. God bless. Jamie McKinnon

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

We are so glad we saw Doug awhile back when he was in KGH and were able to enjoy his sense of humour, even during a difficult time. Our visit with Norma reflected the loving bond she and Doug had during their 60 years of marriage. She is a pillar of strength. Our condolences to all the family during this sad time. Your memories will carry you through. Doug was such an accomplished, yet humble man and will always be remembered for his special influence in the lives of so many. Randy & Karen Edgeworth

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Dear Norma, Vicki, Gayle, Lynn and family, as difficult as this journey has been for you it brings peace to know that your vigil has come to a close. Although the ordeal of your loss will be with you always celebrate the memories. Doug was a person who inspired us all. Although terrified of the larger than life, pensive, quiet man when a child, I grew to have tremendous respect for his personage. I am so grateful and blessed to have had him as my Uncle. Sincere condolance's from both of us. Michele and Beth

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Norma and family: Eleanor and i offer you our most sincere condolences on the passing of Doug. What a wonderful life and career he shared with so many, many people who would become lifelong friends. We will not make it to Kingston at this time but you are in our prayers. We will see Ward in Bolton when he returns With our love, John and Eleanor Milliken

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

To the Hargreaves family, my sincere condolences to you for the loss of a great man and a true leader of men. I arrived at training camp in the Fall of 1988 as a young boy and graduated four years later as a man. During this time I learned the true lessons of teamwork, discipline and humility. On that first day I addressed him as Coach and he responded with "please call me Doug" Such a simple thing to make me feel respected and a part of the team. Thank you Doug for mentoring 19 years of Golden Gaels. Sincerely, Dan Pawliw

 

Posted: July 7, 2016

Dear Norma and family. I was so very sad to hear of Doug's passing. He was a remarkable, kind and generous soul and positively influenced the lives of so many people. The small amount of time I had the pleasure to spend in his company remains a fond memory in my mind and heart. He will be greatly missed. Sincerely, Belinda Scilley

 

Posted: July 8, 2016

Norma, Vicki, Lynn, Gayle and Family: Thank you for sharing Doug with us. So many of us are so very much the better for having him in our lives. With love, Bob Mullen

 

Posted: July 8, 2016

Dear Norma, Vicki, Lynn, and Gail, and family, we were very saddened to receive the news about Doug's passing, but know he is now at peace. His life's legacy lives on through you, and through all the young men he coached and guided throughout his career. I feel very fortunate to be one of these men. The lessons Doug taught me on the field have held me in good stead throughout my personal life and professional career. Sincerely, Jim and Mari Rutka

 

Posted: July 8, 2016

MNorma,Vicki,Gayle,Lynn-I am so sad to hear of this loss. Doug was an inspiration to those of us who had the privelge and pleasure of working with him. having met him an a relatively early stage in my life(1967-RMC football staff),I always remembered the profound effect he had on all those around him. We are all "his" students/players and are better off for having known him. Elliott Jacobson

 

Posted: July 9, 2016

Norma and Family, our deepest condolences for the loss of a true leader. Doug's impact on all those lucky enough to learn under him was immeasurable. He was all about integrity and we are all better people by having him as a role model in such an important stage in our lives. If a good life can be measured by having a positive impact on others, Doug lived truly a great life (must have made a good choice of parents). Mark and Trish Morrison

 

Posted: July 9, 2016

Doug was a great mentor to my son Nicholas who was on the Queen's football team in his first year at Queen's. I did know him except through hearing a lot about him from Nick, but I always felt grateful to him for his kindness and generosity of spirit, and his encouragement of Nick to whom he was an inspiration and very positive role model. Susan Falvo

 

Posted: July 9, 2016

Heartfelt condolences to Norma & Family upon the passing of my ol' bud & dear friend, Doug. As my son Shane just texted, "Thinking of Doug always makes me smile." We will be with you at the 'Irish Wake', at least in spirit. Mabel & Allan MacKenzie & Family

 

Posted: July 9, 2016

An amazing Canadian, an incredible coach and a remarkable human being. I never played for him but I was a cadet at Rmc where we all respected him deeply. We later were colleagues in the PE&R classification and he had a major impact on my attitudes and capabilities as a coach. Rest in peace Doug and thank you for impact my life in a very positive way. Earle Morris

 

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